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I have had the very distinct and memorable pleasure of working with Susan Shapiro Barash on a few articles. She is a joy to work with and a super smart lady and fantastic author. Her books are powerhouses of information for women. I'm proud to say I received a review copy of her latest book last month and I was utterly mesmerized from one page to the next.

Little White Lies and Deep Dark Secrets- The Truth About Why Women Lie was an amazingly insightful read. It gives a fascinating view of how society forces women to lie. It explains how society gives women mixed messages from infancy.

She says:

Ever since we were little girls, we have been encouraged to keep secrets.

I was raised a good girl, like most women in America, where instinctively we knew that a secret was sacred, I was taught to never betray a trust. The fact that a mishandled secret could endanger someone was shown to me by my mother, my aunts, my grandmothers, so I knew to believe this. I remember feeling special when someone shared a secret, and choosing carefully with whom I shared my secrets. By high school, secrets between girlfriends were a big part of the picture; who had a crush on whom, how far someone had gone with her boyfriend, who had been out all night while her mother thought she was sleeping at a friend’s house.

I thought the press release I received with the book said it very well:

{This book} invents a new lexicon to explain how women, who confront double standards at every turn and the pressures of a culture obsessed with beauty, success and wealth, protect themselves and their families, please others, and safeguard their financial security.

Susan identifies six styles of female lies as compassionate, beneficial, survival, designated, acceptable and betterment lies.

I think this book should be required reading!

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  1. wow... sounds like a very interesting book!!! and the mouse... welll... the mouse went to mouse heaven and i got a new one!!! :)

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  2. Sounds like a book that I will definitely have to check out!@

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